Hungry
for Love: The Feeding Relationship in the Psychological Development
of Young Children |
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By
Charles W Slaughter, MPH, RD Alika Hope (Bryant) Despotopoulos, MA
Abstract
At
a time of increasing concern about childhood obesity, health care practitioners
can exert pressure on parents and other caregivers to view meals and
snacks primarily as opportunities to control children's caloric intake
and thus prevent or control childhood obesity. Yet feeding is about
much more than the amount and kinds of food offered: Feeding can have
a powerful influence not only on the physical health of children but
also on their social and emotional health. The feeding interactions
used by parents can support or hinder their children's healthy development
and can affect parental satisfaction with parenting. By incorporating
basic knowledge of child development into the feeding interactions used
by parents, health care practitioners can have an even greater impact
on the health of children and parents.
What
happens during the first months and years of life matters a lot, not
because this period of development provides an indelible blueprint for
adult well-being, but because it sets either a sturdy or fragile stage
for what follows. --Shonkoff and Phillips1:p5
Introduction
Our knowledge
of children's needs has grown tremendously in recent years. One has
only to read the 2000 National Academy of Science report, From Neurons
to Neighborhoods, to understand the importance of early childhood
development, including early brain development.1 The past
decade has seen a large increase in research and communication about
brain development, particularly in early childhood.2,3 This
research tells us that the interactions between parents and their infants
or children are very important for human development. The parent-child
relationship can provide lifelong gifts, such as healthy brain develop
ment; a sense of resilience; a sense of being loved and cared for; empathy
for others; a desire for and joy about exploring, reading, and other
learning; and a sense of being important to others.1
Equally
true is the assertion that a poor parent-child relationship can represent
lost opportunity to build genuine love and as such can be destructive
through no fault of the infant or child. Neglectful or harmful parenting
can wound or damage a child; limit brain development; create unhealthy
beliefs about what love is; create a sense of worthlessness; and decrease
exploring, reading, and other learning.1
Attachment
research has contributed greatly to our knowledge and understanding
of the importance and impact of early parenting. Mary Ainsworth's attachment
research in 12-month-old infants opened the door to assessing how mothers
relate and respond to their young children and how the resulting mother-child
relationship can be characterized as being securely attached, avoidantly
attached, or ambivalently attached.4 Further research in
the field of attachment has shown that children with a secure attachment
explore more, are easier to manage, are more resilient, have better
social skills, have better relationships with peers, and have more empathy
than do children in the other two groups. In other words, the quality
of relationships a child has later in life reflect the warmth, responsiveness,
and consistency of care experienced by the child in his or her early
relationships.
Each interaction
between a physician, nurse practitioner, nurse, dietitian, or other
health care practitioner and a parent is an opportunity to learn about
the parent's relationship with his or her child--and is also an opportunity
to build a relationship with the parent. This relationship gives parents
the comfort of knowing that another adult is on their side helping them
to improve their parenting knowledge, skills, and behavior while they
experience and explore the challenges, frustrations, and triumphs of
parenting.
Often,
a most powerful interaction occurs when the parent is influenced by
the health care practitioner to better understand, accept, and provide
developmentally appropriate care to the child and thus positively affect
the child's development, health, and life. An excellent pathway in which
to observe and influence this process is seen in the parent-child feeding
relationship, a universally important early relationship. Feeding is
a major area where parents and their young children have frequent daily
interactions that either support or hinder the child's healthy development.
These interactions can affect parents' perceptions of their competence
at parenting as well as their feelings of closeness to their children
and sense of acting in their best interests. Thus, the feeding relationship
reflects the parent-child relationship--and feeding struggles often
indicate struggle in that relationship.5
At a time
when childhood obesity is attracting legitimate nationwide concern,
anyone can easily miss the greater point and focus on feeding strictly
as a way to prevent or control obesity. A parent can thus believe that
preventing or reversing the child's obesity is more important than the
child. The parent might then feel justified in preventing or controlling
the obesity through actions that may be counterproductive and damaging
to the child's social, emotional, and physical health while failing
to develop the emotional basis for healthy eating habits (eg, stopping
when satiety is reached). However, taking no action might be equally
damaging. A more helpful approach to the problem of childhood obesity
is to address the feeding relationship.
Developmental Aspects
of Feeding
Feeding
is an interactive process that depends on the abilities and characteristics
of both parent and child.6 A positive feeding relationship
is essential for a child's proper nutrition and growth.7
In addition, interactions related to feeding have a powerful impact
on how children feel about themselves and the world.7
The following
example speaks to the emotional well-being of both the child and the
parents; these can be addressed by focusing on the parent-child feeding
relationship.
Mavis
Bomengen, RN, a public health nurse in Lakeview, Oregon, was working
with a mother to help her two-year-old son, who was enrolled in the
nationwide Special Supplemental Nutrition Program for Women, Infants,
and Children (WIC). As part of the WIC visit, Mavis explored the child's
mealtime environment and learned that the mother was forcing her child
to "clean his plate" at each meal.
The tension
and battles that resulted made mealtimes unpleasant for both the child
and his mother. Mavis described for the mother the primary feeding relationship
concept: division of responsibility. The mother was willing to try to
incorporate this concept by letting the child--and not either parent--assume
responsibility for how much he ate. However, the mother warned that
the response of the child's father would probably be a different story.
After three calls to the father, he agreed to meet Mavis in the clinic
to discuss the situation.
Mavis
asked him about his own experience of mealtime when he was a child.
The answer was not surprising: He had been forced to clean his plate.
"If it was good enough for me," he stated, "it's good
enough for my son." And how had he felt about mealtimes under those
circumstances? Mavis asked. Mealtimes were unpleasant, the father admitted.
Then, faced with the realization that his son was probably having similar
feelings, the father agreed to let his son decide how much to eat at
each meal (personal communication, Fall 1995).
In the
feeding situation just described, parenting was clearly improved. Equally
important but perhaps not as apparent is the observation that this improvement
helps the two-year-old child during a developmental stage-separation
and individuation-in which he is working to succeed at specific
and necessary developmental tasks.
Feeding
provides an opportunity for parents to support healthy development.
By using Satter's division of responsibility and other healthy behavior
related to the feeding relationship, a parent helps his or her baby
to feel safe, secure, loved, and respected. These types of feeding behavior
also help children to develop an internal sense of being capable, to
experience and learn healthy boundaries, and to learn important life
skills.
As with
other aspects of parenting, the area of feeding is likely to present
difficulty for parents.8-10 The struggle is usually expressed
as frustration or concern about their child's eating behavior. Feeding
interactions are influenced by the child's developmental stage and by
the particular tasks required at each stage, and a parent may lack knowledge
about normal childhood eating behavior or strategies available for developing
specific, healthy feeding behavior. Driven by this lack of awareness,
parents can have unrealistic expectations that introduce struggle into
the feeding relationship. A child's emotional state and a parent's eating
experiences as a child also can contribute to this struggle.
Infants,
toddlers, and young children go through distinct stages of development.
Writing about failure to thrive and infantile anorexia, Dr Irene Chatoor
noted how feeding struggles indicate struggles with the parent-child
relationship in the first three stages of development: homeostasis,
attachment, and separation and individuation.11 What happens
during feeding is vitally important to the child's emotional, social,
and physical health. Knowing the child's age and current areas of development
is helpful for interpreting the nature of the feeding struggle and for
guiding an effective approach.
Feeding During Pregnancy
During
gestation, a baby experiences a warm, moist environment that is for
the most part secure, safe, and soothing. The physical boundaries are
the tightest the child will ever enjoy, even as they change to exactly
accommodate the unborn baby's growth. Little communication by the baby
is needed to have his needs met for food, warmth, oxygen, and sleep.
During
the second half of pregnancy, a new need and ability arise.12
Babies begin to interact with their mother and with others. New evidence
shows that they can hear and respond to singing, talking, reading, and
noise; that they are aware of the touch of someone's hand; and that
they can move in response to that touch. Researchers in brain development
tell us that this healthy interaction helps to strengthen connections
between neurons.12,13
All in
all, although the womb is an ideal and wonderful place to live, babies
must develop into loving, capable people. To do so, they must be allowed
to grow physically, emotionally, socially, and spiritually.
Feeding During Homeostasis
Homeostasis is the stage from birth to about three months of age. A
parent's warm, responsive, consistent care at this stage helps the baby
to contain the sometimes intense, frightening, and conflicting feelings
that arise naturally from being out of the womb. Feeling safe and secure
means being fed when hungry; being treated with respect by having feeding
stopped when the baby gives cues of being full; sleeping when tired;
being held, touched, and engaged when needing soothing interaction;
and being given needed care. Dr Mary Ainsworth, a leading developmental
researcher on the importance of the parent-child relationship, has said
"... one of the reasons why feeding is interesting in the first
three months of life is that the baby spends more of its time in interaction
with its mother in the feeding situation than in any other kind of situation."14:p169
Dr Thomas
Lewis and colleagues have written that this early interaction between
parent and baby results in formation and storage of implicit memories.15
Some implicit memories formed by babies are based on their experiences
in the mother's womb. Lewis et al15 state that these early
implicit memories are powerful and become the basis for the child's
definition of a loving relationship. These beliefs continue to guide
each person's choices about love--even during the adult years. For example,
the implicit memories formed by a young baby who is consistently fed
with warmth soon after giving hunger cues are different from the implicit
memories formed by a baby whose hunger cues are consistently ignored
or who experiences unpleasant interaction during feeding. Dr Bruce Perry
notes that this early interaction creates templates to which later experiences
are compared.16
A fetus
is fed without having to communicate about being hungry, but a newborn
experiences a radical change from this life in the womb: Feeding and
all other activities require the newborn to use sounds and body language
to communicate his or her needs. A parent's responsibility is to observe
this new form of communication, decipher what the baby is trying to
say, and then fulfill the need being expressed. When the parent has
solved the riddle and supplied the need, the baby feels understood,
comforted, safe, and secure. Lewis et al have written:
Ainsworth
observed ... that secure attachment resulted when a child was hugged
when he wanted to be hugged and put down when he wanted to be put down.
When he was hungry, his mother knew it and fed him; when he began to
tire, his mother felt it and eased his transition into sleep by tucking
him into his bassinet. Wherever a mother sensed her baby's inarticulate
desires and acted on them, not only was their mutual enjoyment greatest,
but the outcome was, years later, a secure child.15:p75
One gift
health care practitioners can give parents is the awareness that the
parent's care is powerful for the infant, who already has a genuine,
deep connection with the caregiving parent. One example of this power
is shown by a scene in the video "The First Years Last Forever":
In this video, Dr T Berry Brazelton and a mother talk to a newborn simultaneously
with approximately the same tone and loudness.17 The baby
turns to the mother, clearly preferring her voice to Dr Brazelton's
because the mother's voice, after all, is the voice the baby knows;
she had been hearing it for months. Learning that the newborn recognizes
and prefers the caregiving parent's voice can be a powerful experience
for that parent.
Feeding During the Attachment
Stage
The
theme of the next developmental stage--which occurs between two and
six months of age--is falling in love: The parent and the baby fall
in love with each other. This period is special and rewarding for both.
By paying attention to cues given by the baby during feeding, the parent
provides the responsive care that the baby finds so soothing. As in
the homeostasis stage, the infant needs the experience of having someone
be "crazy about" him or her and spending plenty of time showing
it.
By about
three months of age, a baby begins to smile at the parent, make noises
at the parent, and watch the parent. The baby is experimenting--"trying
out" both himself and his parents to learn whether they find him
interesting.7 Major, long-lasting, life-affecting learning
is taking place at this stage as the interaction and response of the
parent creates in the baby an early internal belief about whether or
not he or she is lovable.
Feeding
offers a prime opportunity for parents to provide interaction that helps
the baby learn that he or she is indeed lovable. In addition to nutritious
food, parents can feed their love, care, and attention to the baby warmly,
responsively, consistently. This kind of care helps to build an internal
sense of being safe and loved--of having a "secure base."4
Feeding During the Separation
and Individuation Stage
This stage, at which an infant separates and individuates from his or
her parent, extends from six months to 36 months of age and has three
major themes: exploration, learning to be competent, and becoming one's
unique self. By this point, the relationship with his or her parents
should have given the infant a strong, internal sense of trust. Toddlers
who have this secure relationship explore their surroundings much more
than do those who have been raised in an institution that is comparatively
sterile emotionally.18 Exploring is a crucial element for
learning--and learning is a skill essential for having a full and satisfying
life.
A parallel
effect exists for health care practitioners working with parents to
explore their infants' feeding behavior. We must build in these parents
a sense of safety, security, and trust with us so that they will be
more willing to take the risks involved in exploring their own feeding-related
parental struggles and behavior.4
Issues
of uniqueness and struggle continue to arise for parents: Each baby--and
each caregiver--is unique. As babies mature, they reveal their unique
food-related likes and dislikes and communicate them to the parents.
How parents respond to this uniqueness--whether they accept or reject
it--will affect their baby's sense of whether being one's own, unique
self is acceptable.
During
this stage, a child's task is to work on developing an internal sense
of self, autonomy, and competence and to begin moving away from the
closeness she has known; at the same time, the child still needs and
depends on important relationships with his or her parents and other
important caregivers. During this stage, the child seeks answers to
some basic questions:
- Can
I successfully explore the world and become more independent and competent
while retaining my sense of connection to the important people who
love me?
- Will
the important people close to me let me learn to use my anger; allow
and trust me to retain ownership of my feelings and behavior; and
let me use the powerful word No?
- What
kind of relationship will I have with my mother or father when I say
No?
- What
kind of relationship will I have with my mother or father when they
say No?
Henry
Cloud and John Townsend point out that three basic tools--anger, ownership,
and No--help 18- to 36-month-old children to achieve the developmental
tasks of this age.19 Cloud and Townsend state that a child
learns from his or her anger that something must be addressed, and this
skill is needed throughout life. Ownership gives a child an opportunity
to take care of something (eg, a possession or an aspect of her life)
that is necessary before she can genuinely start to share with others.
Using No helps a child learn how to use power and how to maintain
a healthy connection with another person while using or receiving No.
Cloud
and Townsend19 state that being able to use No (verbally
and nonverbally) is a very important life skill that will be used for
the rest of the child's life. The reactions of parents and other caregivers
teach toddlers whether using No is okay or will cause them to
pay a price for this behavior.
Psychologic Dynamics of
Feeding: The Role of Parental Behavior
Feeding
gives infants, toddlers, and older children an opportunity to practice
using No by using a primary feeding relationship concept: division
of responsibility. The child is thus allowed to be in charge of how
much he or she eats of the food that is offered--and even whether the
child eats at all.7 Feeding also gives a parent the opportunity
to practice accepting the No.
More important,
however, is the parent's reaction when the toddler uses No by
not eating a particular food or not eating any of the food. In general,
parents react to this situation in one of three ways:
- by
accepting and supporting the child's choice;
- by
pressuring or forcing the child to eat the food; or
- by
withdrawing from the child emotionally.
If a parent
withdraws emotionally because of hurt feelings, the child learns that
he or she will pay a price for using No: The child will lose
his or her emotional connection to a very important person in her life.
This consequence is a big price to pay. Parents who force their children
to eat teach them that they will pay a different price: They will be
treated with disrespect while experiencing the powerlessness of their
No.
These
parental responses teach a child that eating the food is more important
to the parent than the child's feelings. The child learns that using
No is not safe and that this No is likely to be ignored.
This early, perceived lack of support for the child's use of No
can adversely affect his or her use of and trust in this important life
skill. In contrast, by allowing their children to refuse to eat certain
foods or to refuse to eat when not hungry, parents give their children
permission and support for acting in a way that shows love of self.
By accepting
their children's refusal to eat a particular food at a particular time
or their lack of a big appetite at a particular meal, parents send the
message not only that using No is okay in this family but also
that you can use No and still be loved in this family. This method
of parenting is powerful because it builds within children a deeper
sense of connection with their parents as well as internal beliefs that
differ from those of children whose No is ignored or overridden.
A child whose parents accept No will later be much more likely
to feel comfortable saying No to something that is not good for
the child.
Equally
important, the division of responsibility provides an opportunity for
the child to learn to accept No. When a parent allows the child
to eat only at (and not between) snacktime and at meals, the parent
is using No with the child. As Cloud and Townsend point out,19
children must learn to accept No from a parent while maintaining
a healthy relationship with that parent. Of course, developing this
acceptance and its associated behavior takes repeated practice; it cannot
be learned overnight.
Other Challenging Situations
Related to Feeding
Children
who have been victims of abuse or neglect--or both--often have problems
with food. Foster parents and other caregivers of such children can
use feed
ing time to develop with them a relationship that helps them to trust
adults while learning that the children's likes and dislikes are respected.
Through an appropriate feeding relationship, abused children aged 18
months to 36 months--and even older--can thus learn that their independence
and competence are supported and encouraged by a healthy relationship
with a wise, caring adult.
Children
with diagnosed disabilities also benefit from a good feeding relationship
with a caregiver. Children born with phenylketonuria (PKU) require a
diet low in phenylalanine. The caregiver must teach the child what foods
he or she can and cannot eat. Within this framework, the child will
dislike some foods and thus will have an opportunity to use No.
At the same time, the caregiver has the vital opportunity to interact
with the child while learning, together with the child, what foods are
appropriate for the child to eat. Working with parents of children with
other medical conditions that frequently require clinical intervention
(eg, cystic fibrosis, Down Syndrome, HIV/AIDS), health care educators
can help these parents to recognize their children's special dietary
concerns and thus encourage attachment behavior.
How Health Care Staff
Can Help Parents
When
collecting and assessing a child's nutritional status and other health
information, health care practitioners--who naturally desire to help
the child--often focus more on the child and his or her "nutrition
problems" than on the parent's reaction patterns. But having capable,
loving parents is the key to being a healthy child; and therefore staff
are more likely to have a positive impact on the child if they have
a positive impact on the parent. In a recent national survey, 79% of
parents said that they want more information and support in one or more
of six areas of childrearing.20
Ellyn
Satter has noted how parents need to feel that staff are on the parents'
side, support them as parents, and are competent in their work.7
Thus, a helpful strategy is to remember four key parental desires:
- to
have happy, smart kids;
- to
be seen as experts on the subject of their own kids;
- to
be seen as acting in their kids' best interests; and
- to
make parenting as easy as possible.
Before
clinicians can expect improvement in a parent's feeding behavior, the
clinician must do three things: identify the parent's needs with regard
to his or her child's eating; partner with the parent to share knowledge
about normal childhood eating behavior; and help the parent to resolve
his or her needs through use of appropriate feeding behaviors.
This approach--focusing
on the feeding relationship--offers an excellent opportunity for health
care practitioners to connect with parents to identify their needs and
help meet them. The experiences of revealing a feeding struggle, receiving
competent help, being treated respectfully, and successfully resolving
that struggle can help parents to feel more loved and thus open the
way for them to give more genuine love to their children.
A child's
eating behavior may be an appropriate starting point for our approach,
but our work is mainly with the parent and with his or her feeding behavior--and
one important feeding behavior is how parents offer new foods to their
children. The idea is simple: New foods enable parents to provide variety,
which is critical for nutritional health. Implementing this idea, however,
is complex because many factors influence whether a child eats (or even
tries to eat) the new food. Such factors include the normal toddler
behavior of using No; the child's environment during mealtime
or snacktime; the child's level of hunger; and the parent's feeding
behavior.5,21 Aspects of the child's uniqueness--for instance,
his or her level of sensitivity to bitter flavors--can be a factor.22,23
Offering
a new food can be reframed in a way that connects it with the parent's
desire to act in the child's best interests. Because parents want their
children to be able to cope with the challenges that they will inevitably
face in life, health care practitioners can suggest to parents that
offering a new food is a double opportunity, ie, for the parent to provide
a small, limited challenge to the child and for the child to handle
the challenge in a way that fits his or her temperament. Nutrition educators
can reassure parents that their children may be somewhat uncomfortable
with new foods but that this discomfort is normal and that the offer
of a new food is a genuinely loving gift given to a child.
By reassuring
the child face to face in a nonintrusive, matter-of-fact way and not
trying to resolve the child's discomfort, the parent lets the situation
be the child's own challenge. The child thus receives two gifts:
- the
opportunity to cope with a limited challenge at the child's own pace;
and
- the
reassuring presence of a caring parent.
Meanwhile,
this behavior also gives the parent two gifts, both in the form of knowledge:
- the
knowledge that his or her parenting will help the child grow up capable
and confident; and
- the
knowledge that this way of parenting provides
an important behavioral model--that of supporting a loved one who
is struggling with a problem.
These
gifts are manifestations of powerful parenting.
Parents
who are unable to follow this approach may benefit from exploring the
underlying reasons for this inability. Like the father in Mavis Bomengen's
story, some parents may have eating experiences from their own past
that affect how they feed today. A primary prevention setting is not
the appropriate milieu for in-depth examination of the parent's feeding
struggles, but the parent should be allowed to speak the truth, to let
natural and helpful feelings arise, and to connect the parent's own
feeding behavior with his or her own childhood eating history.
An alternative
is for the health care practitioner to offer a thought-provoking question,
for example, "I wonder if you had any eating experiences earlier
in your life that might be contributing to this struggle you're having?
I don't know if there are or not; I'm just wondering about it."
Letting the parent leave the visit with an unanswered question can be
both a respectful and an effective way of acknowledging that the parent
may not yet have a sufficient sense of safety and trust to explore a
feeding-related issue. The health care practitioner thus leaves the
parent with the feeling of having had an overall positive experience
despite struggling with a feeding-related problem.
Conclusion
Feeding
is the area of a child's life where nutrition, parenting, and human
development meet. Health care practitioners need not only nutrition
knowledge but also the knowledge of how parenting and development each
contribute to the parent-child feeding relationship. Exclusive focus
on the type and quantity of food a child is eating results in failure
to notice specific parenting behaviors that affect the child's eating;
and this failure decreases the opportunity to improve the child's nutritional
status.
Much more
than nutritious food can--and should--be provided during breastfeeding
and at other feedings. Feeding provides an opportunity for parents to
be present with their children and to give them love, care, and attention.
Researchers in early childhood development and brain development emphasize
that this interaction is a powerful gift that affects the health of
the child.24 Feeding assumes this broader role by affecting
not only the child's physical health but also his or her social and
emotional health. Each mealtime provides interaction between parent
and child, and each interaction is filled with potential. Helping parents
to incorporate healthy
feeding behavior into mealtime offers a substantial opportunity for
health care practitioners to support the healthy physical, emotional,
and social development of many infants and young children.
Anyone
who routinely works with parents and children encounters families in
which a parent and child struggle with their relationship. Helping the
feeding relationship to proceed constructively helps the parent-child
relationship to proceed constructively and builds genuine love in--and
for--the parent. This love is what produces parents' genuine desire
and effort to help their children thrive.
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